Experience talks - Freedom without independence is no freedom at all

Experience talks.
Freedom, without independence,
And freedom used irresponsibly
Without being accountable and answerable,
Will be self-spoiling,
And will lead anyone to escape
To the comfort zones of laziness - inertia.
 
Freedom given early,
Without letting your children
Grow and reach the age
Of capacity of independence,
Will lead them to be unripe and spoilt
With their skills and talents wasted.
 
Giving early freedom will be like
Breaking the eggs before chicks are hatched
And they come out by themselves.
 
Giving early freedom will be like
Plucking the tender fruit off the tree,
Than waiting for them to get ripened themselves.
 
The chick will be killed
And the fruit will be spoiled.
 
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Too much consultation with your child
On what to do and how to do in his matters
Will not help children grow, than spoiling.
 
You are the one to decide their matters,
And they are not supposed at all,
Unless they reach such an age and growth.
 
If given chance by consultation and freedom,
Children will only opt and prefer,
To resort to go for comfort zone
And escape from hard works and toughness
Using the veils of their fancies and dream,
Using the veil of your support, care and love
And putting the blame on all around.
 
Dreams are good, only if they are
Ready to undergo the process
Without putting blame on hardship it will give.
 
It is the process that matters
It is the process that brings in the results.
The results of greatness and great talents.
 
It is beautiful and easy to dream for the great result,
Especially as great results are with the great comforts.
 
So, anyone does it and our children especially do.
 
But when the time comes for undergoing
The process of hard work and pressure
To achieve and reach such dreamed result
If given freedom, they will escape
To comfort zone, using the veils of
Freedom and consultation,
Putting the blame on everything
Other than him and his inability.

 

But undergoing the process of hard work and pressure
To achieve and reach such result is
That which will be missing, if given freedom
And that which will be very difficult
To undergo the process of hard work and dedication.

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Early freedom is no freedom at all.
Freedom without self-reliance
Is equal to spoiling and getting punished.
It is cruelty.
The cruelty which India is undergoing
With its freedom, but without
Independence and self-reliance.
 
In freedom with independence,
One finds own means
And takes own responsibility.


Freedom of independence
Will get him to be 
Open in openness
To take all the risks
And face all the challenges
By himself alone.

It is what living natural,

Just free. but independent.

 

Living natural and free
Doesn’t and shouldn’t mean
Living less risking and less responsible.
It doesn't means
Enjoying only the life
Without death.
It also wouldn't mean
Enjoying only the health
Without ill-health and falls.